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I’d hold my head high sporting bright red lipstick and a full beard; dance on the bar, unshaven legs exposed by a miniskirt; strut unashamed across cobblestones in four-inch heels. And for half of the gay men on campus, I was something of a goddess, an inspiration, a friend. I was flamboyant gay kid who made everyone else look bad by association.

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As an undergraduate at Duke University, I was something of a campus unicorn.

I was anything but quiet about my sexuality and my gender identity.

Well first order of business is a pressing matter that several readers have written to me about. It goes a little like this: Straight woman, married with children meets and falls head over heels for a lesbian.

Straighty leaves her hetero life for her gay honey, hoping to live happily ever after.

A black, femme gay guy who wears ascots and keeps his hair long and straightened, Ethan has been out at Simon’s school since sophomore year.

He is the gender-nonconforming queer kid who blazed the trail and bears the brunt of the bullying and harassment because of it.

He is openly bullied in front of Simon; he retorts in powerful, queenly fashion to his tormentors as Simon remains silent, watching and cringing.

As a genderqueer kid who has always been too femme for my own good, I found Ethan to be the only character in the film I could relate to.

At the same time as they disavowed me, they profited from my existence.

I had flashbacks to my campus years this weekend when I went to see the movie “Love, Simon.” From what I’d heard, it was a revelation: a film that effortlessly normalized the queer experience in a touching, quirky and beautiful way, a film so important that celebrities were buying out theaters in their hometowns so that gay teenagers could see it free.

Your courage has paved the way for my life to be easier, and I wish I would’ve stood up for you.” But it never happened.

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